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A Highland Fairy Tale: We Check to See if the Guys Went “True Scottish” and I have to Pee

In Scotland, it’s understood that to be a True Scotsman you don’t wear any underwear with your kilt.  It was actually something Mr. Sword and I got asked A LOT over the course of wedding planning once people found out he’d be wearing one, and it was the butt of many a joke that weekend (har har har).  Most of the guys told us they would NOT be wearing any but hey, us girls still wanted to check for ourselves…

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OK, so we didn’t lift their kilts high enough to gain any concrete proof (cause that’d be weird), but I did confirm that my husband was going commando in our alone time post ceremony, because well, he’s my husband, I had to know!  Also, do you remember my post about my wedding crush?  We stole borrowed this idea from them!

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We also added our own little twist by switching it up and having the guys lift up our dresses!  Ooo-la-la!

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After all group, couple, and other random pictures were completed, it was FINALLY time to separate and prepare for the ceremony.  Crystal and the second shooter headed off to the atrium, the men did whatever men do before a wedding (crack jokes and mingle?), and me and my girls headed to our getting ready room to relax and scarf down a few snacks.  Subway anyone?

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One of my friends on Facebook said I should get paid by Subway for this endorsement!  HA!

After stuffing my face I realized I desperately needed to go to the bathroom.  I have a tiny bladder and was shocked I’d made it to 3:30 PM before thinking about it!  Luckily this moment was also captured for your enjoyment.  Yes, that is TP I’m holding.  Yes, I have no shame.

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That’s what BFF’s are for, amirite?

Next up, the ceremony begins!

All photos by Crystal Liepa Photography unless otherwise noted.

How did we do on re-creating the “True Scottish” photo?  Who helped you use the facilities on your wedding day?

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Skipped some of the Sword saga?  It’s OK, catch up today!

Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!
Elevators of anxiety!
Rehearsing and screaming!
Burgers and surprises!
Kisses at midnight!

The Big Day
Bacon for bridal baby!
Hair and makeup!
Men in kilts!
Tiara and bouquet!
Becoming a bride!
Champagne toasts!
First look
Cold couple portraits!
The Swords with swords!
The men pose!
The women pose!
Altogether now!
Elevator madness!
Big reveal!
Family photos!
Posing with our flower girl!


I’m So Honored

Miss Sword’s “Learn from my mistake” Wedding Tip: Do not use the term “personal attendants” when referring to other awesome friends that you want to include in your bridal party.  People will think “personal attendant” is a synonym for “do whatever I say bitch” and you will be grossly misunderstood.

Instead call them “Honor Attendants” and all will be well with the world.

(Mom Sword even had a personal attendant in her wedding back in ’79, but I guess times have changed!)

For a refresher, my bridal party consists of MOH Big Eyes (my beloved and also engaged Sister), my BFF L Dawg (who’s so tight with my family that she’s even traveled with all us), Cousin Jo (whom I’ve watched grow up and turn into an amazing young woman), and Mr. Sword’s Wee Sis (aka my future-sister-in-law and therefore stuck with me for life-hehe).  My bridal party is filled with those I call family.  And it’s four people on purpose.  I didn’t want a huge bridal party.

That said, I have some amazing friends and if I could recognize everyone I would, but it’s just not possible!

In the end, I felt strongly that two particular girlfriends (besties for life) needed to be a part of bridal party but not necessarily walk down the aisle, and that’s how I found myself with honor attendants.

Meet honor attendant H Bomb.

Meet honor attendant C Fri.

I met both of these ladies in college and in completely different places, H Bomb in church and C Fri on a bus my first week on campus, and ironically they both live in NYC now.  Lucky for me, both of these girls are smartie farties and insanely reliable.  So not only do they have to look good in pictures, but they will have a wee bit of responsibility as well.

I came up with fun words like “Regulator” and “Liaison” for them but really I’d just be happy if they handle my cell phone for the day, check in with the boys once in a while, and maybe help us keep the family corralled for some pre-ceremony portraits.

Raise your hand if you think I should get them these?

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Umm, YES PLEASE.  If anything, I have to buy them just for the cute photo opps!

The question then becomes what do the honor attendants wear?

To jog your memory or if you’re just tuning into the Sword saga, the bridesmaids will be in long, chiffon dresses.

Style is called Olivia, image via the Wedding Shoppe, Inc

Only they’ll be wearing the above dresses in the gorgeous purple color known as eggplant.  Remember how I had to wait until the kilt arrived to make the final color decision?  So picture the above length mixed with the below color (similar style is on the left).  Unfortunately the website doesn’t off a “switch color” option for each dress.

Style is called Sydney, image via the Wedding Shoppe, Inc

My initial idea is to ask H Bomb and C Fri to wear chocolate brown because I love neutral tones and it’s conveniently one of our other wedding colors.  I’m also thinking they should wear cocktail length dresses, but I’m curious to how that will look next to the long dresses?  Thoughts?

Here is my inspiration for the honor attendants dresses thus far:

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image via The Dessy Group

As of now I’ve told the girls to buy/order whatever dress they feel comfortable in and would be willing to wear again, but inspiration is hitting me as I write this… what if they wore the same Kennedy Blue style dress as the bridesmaids but in the short version and brown color?  Sometimes having a bit of direction can make it easier to shop.

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Basically I need your help Hive!  AGAIN.  What are your suggestions?  Does it matter that the dresses will be different lengths for the bridal party photos?  While there’s tons of inspiration photos showing MISMATCHED bridesmaid dresses, there seems to be barely any inspiration of MIXED STYLE bridal parties.  I think having bridesmaids and honor attendants in different dresses will make for some beautiful and unique shots!

What do you think of chocolate brown (often called espresso in the wedding world) and eggplant together?  Are you having honor attendants or something similar?  Did you make the mistake of calling someone your bitch, I mean personal attendant, like I did?!?!

Manicures for my ladies

It’s time to talk about bridal party!  After we got engaged Mr. Scottish and I sat down to see who we wanted to have stand up with us at our wedding.  The thing is we weren’t quite sure how many of his friends would up for making the long flight over to the US, so we decided he should go first.  Well, when we were back in Scotland he asked three of his best guy friends to be his Best Man and groomsmen, and then we knew he was going to ask my little bro as well so that would make a total of four.  Four was my number.

Luckily, I’ve known my sister would be my MOH from the day she was born.  She is one and a half years younger than me and man is she annoying!  I wish I was joking but no, shes’ my sister therefore she’s annoying.  But she’s also one my favorite people in the whole wide world and she knows better than anyone (note, that is why she finds me annoying too).  She and I have bickered our way through years of school, friends, struggles, and joys.  We SHARE everything.  (GROSS ALERT, skip to the next paragraph if you are a guy!)  The only thing I got to do first was graduating from high school and starting my period.  TMI?  I thought so.

We got our ears pierced at the same time, my parents helped us buy cars the same summer, and we were invited to the same birthday parties.  We shared every family friend that was a girl in our age range, because for some reason no one else had two daughters close in age, and that meant we spent A LOT of time together.  We are really different people.  I am the center-of-attention hogging oldest child with a need to protect and care for everyone around me.  She is the unloved and moody middle child who loves to nurture and nest, but works uber-hard at everything she does.  Sister Big Eyes is a teacher like my Mom and an amazing one at that.  She’s getting her master’s degree right now (which is stressful enough by itself), raising my nephew-pup, and maintaining a serious relationship, how does she do it!?!?!  I call her Big Eyes because, well, her eyes are HUGE, and even more so when next to my squinty eyes.  My sister and I have different noses, different mouths, different hair colors, and most people can’t tell that we’re sisters at all.  But on the phone we sound exactly the same.  My sister is a strong, smart woman with a huge heart and even writing this I’m starting to tear up because I CANNOT wait for her to stand up next to me and be my MOH.  Also, she’ll probably be singing at the wedding, she is a sister of many talents!

Photo montage ahead: Look for the Big Eyes.  🙂

BFF L Dawg and I met our senior year of high school.  I was feeling lonely because my two closest friends had recently gotten boyfriends and were ditching me a lot to hang out with them, and while BFF L Dawg was in a relationship at the time, after she met me we become inseparable.   We had a science course together and for some reason I was absent one day and she had sat on my stool and apparently did an impersonation of me while I was gone.  The next day she told me all about it, laughing at her own impersonation and hoping I wasn’t mad.  Me, mad?  I totally loved her sense of humor and after that day we started hanging out all the time, and soon after became really close friends, only for me to leave for the University of Illinois that following fall.

BFF and I have had our low points, and the interesting thing is we’ve spent 9 out of our 10 year friendship in a LDR or long distance relationship (that was for my mother, she’d never have known what that meant!).  I can still tell her anything without her judging me, and I look forward to every visit with her.  She knows all my secrets, good and bad, she holds me accountable for things, and is a tiny bit over-protective, as all good BFF’s should be!  L Dawg is not only a great friend but she is also a wonderful person.  In her spare time she volunteers, fosters dogs, landscapes her own home (which she bought in 2009, same year as me), and gets invited to most of our family gatherings.  That is why she will be standing up next to me on the big day.

Photo montage ahead:  Yes, I have brown hair in the first two, those were taken after I dyed my hair for a show I was in!

Since these two ladies live in Minnesota and I was going to be in Minnesota to stalk my venue, I thought I would do something fun to ask them to be in my bridal party.  That is how we came to get manicures that Friday evening after our appointment with Coordinator A.  It was a blast (although the manicure was nothing like the manicures I get here in Chicago– said precisely in the condescending tone that was implied), and I’m so happy they both said YES!!

BM L Dawg on the left and MOH Big Eyes on the right.

So, if you’re keeping track, that is only two girls so far, but you’ll have to wait to hear about the other two on a later post!  I’d like to point out though, that my bridal party is going to be all family (L Dawg being pseudo-family).  I have some of the most AMAZING girlfriends on the planet.  The problem is I have too many of them and there was no way I was going to entertain the thought of having a 14 person bridal party, no way, no how! So I’m going to find other ways to recognize some of them, but for the record, I know so many fabulous women and they all mean the world to me.  I don’t know where I’d be without ALL of them!!  🙂

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Next up, Murder Mystery dinner with the family!