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A Highland Fairy Tale: We Give Away My Bouquet

Now that the DJ was back on it was time for our anniversary dance!  For those of you not familiar, it’s a dance for all the married couples out there to celebrate/recognize how long they’ve been married.  I really wish I could give you our choice as a song recommendation but to be honest, none of us remember what we picked! The thing is, we had decided ahead of time but then the DJ said the song was too short so he made a different suggestion but we soon changed it again, and now no one remembers the song.  OOPS

Mr. Sword and I got to start swaying but very quickly the DJ said anyone who’s been married less than a day, please exit the dance floor, and then we were done!

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The DJ went on to ask the couples to leave who’d been married less than one year, five years, ten years, and so on until there was only one couple left dancing.

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Since I was so adamant about not tossing my bouquet and singling out my single friends, and since I’ve never been super sentimental about drying or keeping flowers, I knew I was going to find another purpose for my bridal bouquet.

My idea was to gift my bouquet to the couple that’s been married the longest, and surprise, surprise, it was my lovely grandparents who celebrated their 56th wedding anniversary this summer!  (Totally rigged and planned in advance.)  I think there’s something beautiful about honoring the longest marriage at the genesis of a new one.

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I get tears in my eyes when I remember how shocked and happy my Grandma was to find out she was being given my bouquet.

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When I called her weeks later she told me how she’d made some of the petals into potpourri after showing it to all her friends.  So sweet.

After the bouquet was given the DJ played our original song choice for the anniversary dance, “Can’t Help Falling in Love” by Grandma’s favorite artist, Elvis Presley.  My grandparents are known for their awesome dance skills and still take a cab every Friday night to their local bar for dancing.  They have the best stories of young people trying to cut in with them and buy them drinks.  Haha

Everyone at our reception stood around the dance floor to watch them.  It was beautiful.

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I’ve already mentioned that my Grandpa has Alzheimer’s and how these two are the only set of grandparents at the wedding and how special that is to my family.  Well, another reason The Gunn Slingers (our ceilidh band) got cut a bit short was because my Grandpa was really confused about where he was during the wedding reception.  In fact, he’d been confused since he’d arrived in Minnesota but as the evening went on he was convinced it was time to pack up so he could leave and go home.  His anxiety was getting bad.  😦

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My Grandpa LOVES to dance though. We knew once he got dancing he would be fine. So once he started getting antsy we immediately shifted to the DJ and started the anniversary song. My grandparents ended up staying the rest of the evening AND dancing for the entire reception.

This next picture is incredibly special.  It’s Mom Sword and her sister (Auntie B) watching their parents dance.  Weddings are the best, aren’t they?

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And this is Mom Sword, her sister, and her brother.  Love.

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These are the moments you never forget.  What is one of yours?

All photos by Crystal Liepa Photography.

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Skipped some of the Sword saga?  It’s OK, catch up today!

Pre-Wedding
Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!
Elevators of anxiety!
Rehearsing and screaming!
Burgers and surprises!
Kisses at midnight!

The Big Day
Bacon for bridal baby!
Hair and makeup!
Men in kilts!
Tiara and bouquet!
Becoming a bride!
Champagne toasts!
First look!
Cold couple portraits!
The Swords with swords!
The men pose!
The women pose!
Altogether now!
Elevator madness!
Big reveal!
Family photos!
Posing with our flower girl!
True Scotsman indeed!

Ceremony
People processing!
Bridal cry/laugh walk!
Ceremony readings!
Vows and handfasting!
Receiving line!

Reception
Cocktail hour!
The pretty details!
Grand entrances!
We get roasted!
Parent dances!
First dance fake out!
Stripping the willow!

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A Highland Fairy Tale: We Begin With Important People Processing

We’ve now hit 4 PM (finally!) and the ceremony is about to begin…

The DJ started by playing a few tunes as guests began to arrive and our adorable ushers (notice their tartan bow ties) began passing out programs.

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Usher/Cousin Singer

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Usher/Cousin Dancer reading a program

Usher/Cousin Dancer reading a program

The prelude was led by Bagpiper E who played three songs (Leaving Port AskaigDornoch Highland Gathering, and Amazing Grace) while walking up and down the aisle.

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In Scotland, I guess it’s common for the bagpiper to pipe outside the church or venue to welcome guests as they arrive, but I liked showcasing E and it was great because as soon as he started playing, everyone figured out it was time to get in their seat!

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The family processional song was chosen by Mr. Sword and couldn’t have been more perfect, Sigur Ros’ Hoppipolla, instrumental version.

First up to walk down the aisle was Grandpa F and Grandma J escorted by Head Usher/Cousin Cool.

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Next up came the handsome Mr. Sword escorting Mum Sword and Scottish Dad down the aisle before taking his place up front.  (At the same time Pastor P was entering up the sneaky side aisle.)

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After that it was time for the Mother of the Bride, Mom Sword!  She was also escorted in by Head Usher/Cousin Cool.

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To round out this song we had Cousin Q process in holding two silk roses in honor of those who have passed on before us, one rose for those in my family, one for Mr. Sword’s loved ones.  I had no idea how to explain this in the program so I just labeled this part of the ceremony, “remembrance flowers.”  All the names of those we were missing at the wedding were printed in the ceremony program and as she reached the front Cousin Q put each rose in a tall glass vase.

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The bridal party was next and they came in to my very offbeat choice of the opening song from Barbie and the 12 Dancing Princesses.  You can listen along, trust me, it’s not as bad as you think!

First up, GM The Glue and BM Wee Sis.

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Following them was GM J and BM Jo.

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Next up was GM P and BM L Dawg.

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Finally, these two grinning goofs, our Best Man and Maid of Honor, came down the aisle.  We like to joke they never stopped smiling the entire day (we have lots of photos to prove it too!), but we think it’s super sweet.

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All the while this guy is waiting patiently for me to make my big entrance…

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All photos by Crystal Liepa Photography.

How did you or how will you honor those who have passed on?  Did you choose any non-traditional processional songs?

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Skipped some of the Sword saga?  It’s OK, catch up today!

Pre-Wedding
Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!
Elevators of anxiety!
Rehearsing and screaming!
Burgers and surprises!
Kisses at midnight!

The Big Day
Bacon for bridal baby!
Hair and makeup!
Men in kilts!
Tiara and bouquet!
Becoming a bride!
Champagne toasts!
First look!
Cold couple portraits!
The Swords with swords!
The men pose!
The women pose!
Altogether now!
Elevator madness!
Big reveal!
Family photos!
Posing with our flower girl!
True Scotsman indeed!

Kids and Cats

Often times, when it’s time to leave to go somewhere with my nanny children, I like to say something stupid like, “Alright, let’s go kids and cats!”  Or I’ll say, “Do we have everyone?  Kids? Cats?”  As if I was caring for a zoo of children and tigers.  (I’m odd.)

The funniest part about this is I don’t even like cats!  They are so lame compared to dogs; I just never saw the appeal.  Come on, is there anything cuter than my nephew-pup in his doggy life jacket?

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And in an effort for full disclosure, can I just say I would NOT call myself a kid person either?

GASP!!! BUT YOU’RE A NANNY!?!?!?!  Yep.  Naturally, I’m in love with my nanny kids but do I have to like every kid I see on the damn playground?  Not gonna happen.  I know it doesn’t make sense… I have two younger siblings and lots of younger cousins.  I have friends with kids I adore, and despite wanting to have my own kids soon someday, I still can’t say I’m obsessed with children in general (not that there’s anything wrong with those who are).

So why am I talking about kids and cats??  Well, contrary to what you’ve been led to believe in this post, I AM having a kid friendly wedding.   And I’m super pumped about it.

This isn’t the first time this topic has been on the hive, some bees are also having a kid-friendly wedding and some aren’t. What is right for one, might not be right for another.

We’re only going to have about 10-15 kids if they all come, but the thing is, I really like all the kids we’re inviting.  To me, that is the important piece that makes kid friendly weddings work.  You have to care about them, you must have some sort of relationship with them.  The issue comes when you are inviting all of your relatives that you don’t really see/talk to anymore and they bring their kids and you’re like, who is that weirdo child being obnoxious at my wedding!?!  Why did I invite them!?!  Don’t they know I’m the princess of the day!?!

At my wedding, all the kids coming  are cool.  They range from potentially toddlers to teenagers but they’re all awesome.   They can handle talking to adults, being patient, and eating with silverware (probably better than me if we’re being honest here).

I know there many are reasons why people don’t want children at their weddings but here’s why I’m excited to welcome the kiddos to our nuptials:

1) Kids are spontaneous! They do and say cute things at random times and it’s OK because it tends to break the ice and keep a wedding natural and light-hearted.

2) Kids at weddings have the opportunity to make their parents more fun.  They get their parents to dance, they get their parents to laugh more, they get them to take pictures, and cry happy tears.  They just help keep everyone engaged and present (well for the most part anyway, we all know kids can stress their parents out as well!)

3) Kids add a sense of generation to weddings.  Does that make sense?  Both weddings and children symbolize the future so they sort of go hand in hand.  And isn’t it beautiful to see grandparents and grandkids in the same room?

So, Kids and Cats it is!! Except instead of cats, I mean cake.

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Are you having a kid friendly wedding?  Why or why not?