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The Swords Live Happily Ever After

It all started on the eve of Thanksgiving 2009.  I met a drunk Scottish guy and I gave him my phone number with the instructions, “I don’t call boys, boys call me.”  A phrase that haunts me still, but believe me, I didn’t mean it the way it sounds!  I was merely expressing my nervousness at my calling him.

He did call and our first date was lunch and window shopping down Michigan Ave in Chicago.  It was amazing.  By June of 2010 I was on a plane leaving the country for the very first time to visit his home in Scotland.   He proposed on February 19th, 2012 at the top of the John Hancock Building and we were wed on March 9th, 2013.  Now we live in the Kansas City area but our ultimate goal is to raise a family in Minnesota.  (Speaking of, go Minnesota for passing a same-sex marriage bill back in May; you make me proud!  Number 12 baby.)

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I know it’s easy to get wrapped up in a big wedding bubble when you’re deep in the middle of planning.  I know that some people in real life have lovingly and not-so-lovingly called me wedding-obsessed and/or crazy, but if I’m going to be crazy about one thing, it’s love. I will always cherish and enjoy weddings.  They represent beginnings, blending of families, and unfiltered bliss.

If I may indulge in one last piece of advice, here are my three best tips for a stunning and fabulous wedding:

1. Personalize, personalize, personalize.

2. Think like a guest.

3. Go for the deal!  (Life is short.  And if you can save ten bucks per head by having a March wedding in Minnesota then go for it, because April will not be any better weather-wise.)

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Blogging for this community has been such a rich blessing for me as a woman, a writer, and especially a bride.  To all of you who have followed my journey since the beginning, I commend you!  (I realize I can be a bit verbose at times.)  To the blogger friends I’ve made along the way, thank you for your amazing support.  To those of you who kept it real with me, your opinions were always appreciated as was the reminder that I can’t possibly please everyone.

From the moment I woke up after a vivid dream with the words “A Highland Fairy Tale” in my head, to the day it was all so beautifully executed, I’ve had a blast.  Mr. Sword, you are the most amazing man I know.  Our wedding was perfect because our relationship is solid and a happy, loving couple is all anyone should expect at a wedding.  I look forward to many more special moments with you as my husband.


HOLD ON A SEC… who is that sneaking into our family photo???  Oh yes, that’s our new baby girl.  She’s a one year old hound mix with a brindle coat and she’s kind of amazing.  We got her from a shelter in mid-August and we LOVE being doggie parents.  Should we call her our dagger or just a small sword?


Her name is McKenna.  Of course it’s a Scottish name because that’s exactly something I would do.  Isn’t she the cutest?


I’m still planning on writing and well, being me, so if you’re so inclined, please feel free to check out my new relationship blog, Drama Happens.  I’d love to be able to share more of my life with you all!

With that, The Swords are leaving the building.  From the bottom of my heart, thank you.


(all photos personal)

One last thought!  The fact that I could never make a Sword in the Stone wedding reference in my year of blogging really upsets me.  Anyone got anything good?  🙂


Rain On My Wedding Day

Hello hive!  I’m back as a married woman and I’m dying to share a sneak peek of our wedding day!  My post that went up yesterday was written late Friday night by a very happy Miss Sword with a very nervous tummy.  I hinted that we had a good chance of having rain on our wedding day and I’m here to report that the weather was absolutely terrible!  Cold and rainy all day.

But that didn’t stop us from taking two hours worth of photos outside (as planned), I’m crazy I know!  By the end of it I couldn’t feel my toes, Mr. Sword had a bright red nose, and my hair/makeup/bouquet were all quite wet even though we did are our best to stay underneath a bridge and a parking garage.

All that aside, I cannot describe our wedding as anything other than perfection.  It was amazing.  Everything worked out beautifully and we received compliments all night about how much everyone loved it.  I couldn’t have asked for more.

These things I know for sure:

Lots of planning and prep = a smooth wedding day.

If the Bride and Groom have to travel in bad weather and take photos in bad weather, but ALL of their out-of-town family and friends are able to make it to the wedding easily, it’s more than worth it.

Falling out of love with your dress happens, but when your Big Day arrives, you might love it so much you won’t want to take it off.

Ceilidh dancing is pretty much the best thing EVER.  Although Strip the Willow almost killed me….  🙂

Mr. Sword and I have amazing family and friends in our lives.

Marrying your love is the most brilliant way to spend a Saturday.

And now some behind the scenes photos from our day… enjoy!

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(all photos personal and taken by the awesome honor attendant CBF)


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Irrational Pre-Wedding Fears

We all have them.  Those weird little wedding related fears that keep us up at night, those things that are not even a big deal (well sometimes they are), and that most people would tell you not to worry about, but they are your fears and they feel scary to YOU.  I’m not talking about wondering if your partner will show up at the wedding or whether or not you should be getting married, those are what we call REAL fears, and in that case, please seek professional help.

To be honest, my irrational fears don’t keep me up at night (my to-do list does!), and more often than not they just make me laugh.  I’m a perpetual worrier so I constantly feel like I’m climbing an uphill battle against staying present in the current moment.  9 times out of 10, my worries don’t even come true so it’s silly to waste time on them, but for the sake of making us all feel a little less alone, I will share my irrational pre-wedding fears, and then you can share yours!

1. Mr. Sword and I won’t have that special moment walking down the aisle.  My fear is we won’t end up staring at one another, eyes locked in an intimate gaze, like everyone says they do during that special walk.  For whatever reason,  I feel like something will prevent us from that out-of-body moment.  Either I’ll be smiling back at my adoring fans friends and family, Mr. Sword’s shyness will cause him to look away or look down, or there will be people shouting from balconies above in the hotel causing everyone’s attention to go upwards.  WHO KNOWS!!?!  But all I hear is how special this moment is for the bride and groom, and my irrational fear is that we won’t have one!

How sweet is this?


2. No one will dance when the Ceilidh band plays.  This is a common fear for many brides, will people dance at our wedding or won’t they?  We’ve all been to weddings where the dance floor is scarcely populated and the vibe isn’t very upbeat.  This fear is extra silly to me because I know most of my guests are already pumped about learning to dance Scottish-style, and I know our band is going to kick-ass, but there’s a part of me that remembers how nervous some people get about group dancing, and what if it ends up being a big bust?

3. There will be a blizzard the weekend of my wedding preventing all of my out-of-town-guests from attending the wedding.  Unfortunately this is less irrational and more like a 50/50 chance.  Minnesota in March can be 60 and inexplicably warm or -5 with an all-out blizzard.  This is one of those things I have ZERO control over, so I just push it out of my mind and remember that we are as prepared as we can possibly be.  Our whole wedding is in one location, we are inviting OOTG’s to come into town the day before for a meal to avoid last-minute flights, and if the past is any indication, last March was pretty decent.  The icky part of this fear is I would be so sad if any of Mr. Sword’s family and close friends couldn’t come due to crazy weather.  Remember the Iceland volcanic ash back in 2011 that made it so no flights were able to leave Scotland??  You know, stuff like that.

This is me imagining I’m walking carefully across the slippery ice towards the rehearsal dinner location.  More on that later!

4.  My arms will look fatty-fat mcFaterson all day.  See, I have this thing about my arms.  They always look huge to me!  I swear, I just have big arms.  We all carry our weight differently, right? Well I tend to carry my weight pretty evenly distributed, even when I’m a little heavier.  I’ve been told I will ALWAYS have an hour-glass figure no matter what my size (by a gay man and we know they speak the truth) and more than one friend has said I’m lucky because my extra weight is spread out all over my body, translated that is just a nice way to say, “you’re fat all over.” Haha!  While I’m slowly but surely trying to lose weight for the wedding, I’m struck by the paralyzing fear that my arms will always make me look bigger than I am because that’s just how they are!  I’m trying to tone them up but if every wedding portrait I take is me posing with my arm on my hip so as to add some shape to it, you’ll know why!!  🙂

I am only showing this picture because I really like all of you.  I LOATHE this fat-armed photo.

(all photos personal unless otherwise noted)

I can’t be the only one!  What are your irrational pre-wedding fears?  Married bees, did any of your fears come true (heaven forbid)?