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A Highland Fairy Tale: We Steal a Midnight Kiss

One of my favorite moments of our whole wedding weekend took place around midnight the night before our wedding.  The rehearsal dinner was finished and BM L Dawg and H were trying to sleep in the adjoining room while I was trying to type my last post as a Miss in the living area.  Don’t you just love hotel suites?

I had previously said goodnight to Mr. Sword in the lobby as we split up, him to the bar to have one last drink, and me to the girls’ getting ready room where I was staying for the night.

But as I sat there typing away at my laptop, trying to shove all of my emotions into concise but eloquent thoughts, I decided I wanted to see him one last time.  I mean, he was so close, I could hear laughing coming from the hotel bar, voices of people who were here for our wedding.  In that moment, I wanted one more goodnight kiss.  One more embrace.

So I texted him, “Where are u?”

And he replied, “At the bar with my dad!”

“Nice ok!  If you leave soon come knock on my door to say hi! 🙂  I’m blogging.” (Clearly, it’s all about the hive.)

“Will do! Just having one!”

(The Swords are avid users of the exclamation point!)

About ten minutes later (or some other amount of time, I have no idea but ten minutes sounds nice) I heard a faint knock at the door and there he was, the man I was going to marry in mere hours!  I got butterflies in my stomach as I crept out into the hall.

I only have a foggy memory of what we said to each other, but I probably asked him how the bar was and if he’d be OK sleeping by himself. (Guys don’t buddy sleep, ya know?)  I probably said something like, “We’re getting married tomorrow!”  And then he probably said something like, “It’s after midnight, I shouldn’t see you, it’s technically our wedding day.”  To which I probably responded with a “Bah, who cares?”

While I don’t remember words, I do remember feelings, (as does my Mister).  We remember feeling happy, giddy, safe, loved, and calm.  I remember feeling this was the beginning of something amazing.

I had always pictured my last night as a single lady gossiping with my friends or crying tears of joy with my sister, but my friends were tired and wanted to hit the hay right away, and my sister has really long hair and wanted to shower in her own room so she opted to sleep with her fiancé to make things easier in the morning.  I guess I was meant to be alone with my thoughts and I think it’s sweet that my last conversation before I went to bed was with my future husband.

After our quick chat, we kissed once or twice more and said goodnight for real and I finished my post, stowed my laptop, and fell asleep surprisingly quick for someone who can rarely shut their brain off fully when they are extra excited.

Tomorrow I was going to be the bride.  I was going to marry an amazing man and celebrate with my favorite people on the planet.  There’s nothing quite like going to bed and knowing you’re going to wake up to your very own wedding day.  As I fell asleep I knew tomorrow would be golden.

Photo by Friend AB

Photo by Friend AB

Did you have one picture in your head for the night before your wedding only to have something different happen?  Anyone else steal a goodnight or goodbye kiss from their partner at an unexpected moment?

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Skipped some of the Sword saga?  It’s OK, catch up today!

Pre-Wedding
Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!
Elevators of anxiety!
Rehearsing and screaming!
Burgers and surprises!

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A Highland Fairy Tale: We Ride the Elevators of Anxiety

Before we get to the elevators, let me back up a bit…

Immediately following the luncheon, the bridal party and I left to get our nails done at Livvy Nails and Spa in Lakeville, MN.  I had picked this salon on a previous planning trip and they were ready for us when we arrived (although there was some miscommunication on when exactly that time would be).  Some of us got regular manis, some got gel manis, and some of us went for both a gel mani AND a pedi (like me!).

I was happy as any nail snob could be and since I asked you all for an opinion on my polish colors, it’s only fair that I tell you what I picked!  I went with Essie’s dark purple “damsel in a dress” on my toes and bridal white in gel on my hands!  I also brought Essie’s lavender  “go ginza” as option for the girls’ and most of them did choose either the dark purple or the lavender to compliment their dresses.

Personal photos/Collage by Mrs. Sword

Personal photos/Collage by Mrs. Sword

We ended up leaving the nail salon in shifts as people were finishing up because it was time to check into the hotel rooms and get organized for the rehearsal.  I was in the last car load, being that my appointment was one of the longer ones, and I was starting to get a bit anxious on the drive to Embassy Suites.

My biggest concern was making sure we had the right people in the right hotel rooms near each other.  I wanted the girl’s getting ready room (where I was sleeping Friday night) to be directly next to my parent’s room so I could get my dress on with only Mom Sword and Sister/MOH Big Eyes in the room. I wanted it to be a private moment and I didn’t want clothing and makeup supplies in the shots.  Mrs. Sword Wedding Tip:  Keep an area clear in your room to get into your dress OR go somewhere else entirely.  It’s amazing how calming it was to step into my dress one hotel room over from where the getting ready commotion was taking place.

The problem was I wanted to be next to my parent’s room and my parent’s wanted to be next to my grandparent’s room and everyone in the family was checking in at different times.  Oh and to complicate things further, the girl’s getting ready room had to be on a different floor than the guy’s getting ready room.  Due to all this and who knows what else, my poor father had to transport my heavy, ruffled wedding gown to a grand total of FIVE hotel rooms before it could be officially hung up.

The funniest part was (and I heard this later on) that Mr. Sword was sitting at the hotel bar chatting with his groomsmen and buddies who had just arrived that Friday afternoon.  And since my dress had been steamed our alterations friend L suggested we don’t cover it again so it was imperative that Mr. Sword look away every time my Dad went huffing and puffing across the lobby.

Photo by FIL Sword

Photo by FIL Sword

Poor Dad Sword, I wish there was some way we could have prevented this, but the truth is with hotels there is no guarantee of early check in, or which rooms you’ll get, or who you’ll be next to, you just have to wait until the day of and hope they are accommodating.  And thankfully Embassy Suites Bloomington WAS very accommodating to us!

To make matters worse, the elevators at our hotel were awful.  This is truly my only complaint about this Embassy Suites, but it’s a big one! Update and improve your elevators people!  The elevators are actually quite beautiful, they are clear glass, and centrally located in the hotel, but slow.as.hell.  I wish I could say this was the last time they were problem but alas it is not, and you’ll just have to wait for a later recap to find out more!  😉

Photo by Aunt K

Photo by Aunt K

Dad Sword wasn’t the only one running laps and waiting on the elevators, I too had to run around and finalize details with Mom Sword, Pastor P, and Mr. Sword!  Then a little before 7 PM our amazing videographers arrived to start taping the family and friend interviews to put in our wedding video so we had to get them to a secluded room and make sure people knew where to go.  And yes I did take the stairs when I could but we’re talking 8 floors here and all while wearing heels and carrying things!

Apparently there were other issues surfacing as well, like the stickers we had bought last-minute to label who had a vegetarian or a kid’s meal on the escort card swords were not stickers at all but jewels with no adhesive so a few ladies had to run out and buy glue.

There was also a mad scramble to get the keyboard, amp, and music stands set up for the rehearsal later that evening.  Luckily I knew nothing of these issues (I love my family and friends) and my biggest focus when I got back to the hotel was squeezing into my fancy rehearsal dress which I first talked about HERE.

I blame 40% of my stress level on being a bride the day before her wedding and the other 60% on those damn elevators!

Looking back now, it’s a big joke in our family, the worst part of the Sword wedding were the elevators from 1970, HAHA, and in retrospect, who really cares?  I can TOTALLY laugh about it now.  🙂

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Skipped some of the Sword saga?  It’s OK, catch up today!

Pre-Wedding
Teaser video!
Final preparations, snow, and tears!
Ladies’ Luncheon!

A Highland Fairy Tale: We Begin With a Teaser Video!

Hello hive!  Happy June!  It feels like I’ve been gone forever but it’s only been a little over a month since my last honeymoon post.  I had to wait a bit longer for my professional photos (which was really difficult) but I’m happy to report they were worth the wait because they are insanely amazing!  And they make me miss my wedding day ten-fold.

Luckily I get to relive it in epic detail with all of you and I’m totally pumped about that.  So let’s get these recaps started, shall we?

For those of you who aren’t as familiar with my story as others, here are a few highlights of my time as a blogger of Weddingbee:

engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

I joined the hive declaring it was my dream come true (and it was).  My other half Mr. Sword, (who proposed to me at the top of the John Hancock building) is from Scotland but didn’t have a family tartan to wear at our wedding, so we decided to design and create our own.  Even though it turned out better than we could ever imagine, it only came about after some disagreeing between myself and Mr. Sword and many opinions from the hive.

I love Mr. Sword's eyes in this photo- he's so good in front of the camera!/engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

I love Mr. Sword’s eyes in this photo- he’s so good in front of the camera!/engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

Despite my determination to make my wedding planning year all about me and my boobs, exciting things happened to other people and both my little sister AND Mr. Sword’s wee sis got engaged as well!

In the beginning, I encouraged us all to laugh at ourselves and figure out what type of bride we were most like, I openly showed my support for gay marriage, I begged you all for help in finding a suitable wedding reading, and I made up some new WR lingo.  Speaking of which, how can I get “shrendoring” into Urban Dictionary??  🙂

engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

engagement photo by Jennifer Jackson

As my planning year came to a close I acted like a drama queen when my dress didn’t fit the first time, but it all worked out in the end thanks to a five-pound weight loss and a new bra.  In my last week as a single lady I admitted my true feelings about plaid/tartan and wrote about how amazing it was to be getting married to the man of my dreams!

And now for a beautiful overview and teaser of our special day:

And with that, it’s time to begin the Sword Recaps!!  Whoo-hoo!  I can’t promise I’ll be brief but I can promise I’ll be open and honest, I’ll be entertaining and at some points embarrassing, and I won’t skip a single major moment!

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Unplugged Honeymoon

I know my fellow bees have discussed the pros and cons of having an unplugged ceremony, but today I want to share why we’re choosing to have an unplugged honeymoon.

Heaven on Earth: Katrina & Matthews Queensland & French Polynesian Honeymoon – Part 2 Bora Bora

Photo by: Dandi on Polka Dot Bride via Lover.ly

(If you want to read about where we’re going and why I don’t know much about it, see this!)

I should really clarify something: “unplugged” in my eyes means NOT connecting with social media or communicating with others by using electronic devices in any form.  (Also, for what it’s worth, I LOVED seeing photos on Facebook the day following my wedding so I definitely didn’t mind have a plugged in ceremony!)

I just bought a new laptop hive.  It’s a really nice, compact Sony Ultrabook complete with Windows 8 and a touch screen.  I love technology even though I’m rubbish at working most gadgets.  Enter Mr. Sword.  He is intuitive when it comes to most devices and what he doesn’t know offhand he looks up and teaches himself (and then he teaches me).  We’re exclusively Android people because Mr. Sword doesn’t like Apple products (due to the lack of customization) and I just like to be different.  We’re those people that desire to someday run our entire house (lights, music, etc) off of one tablet that is located IN THE WALL.  We love all things Google, we are eternally grateful for the ability to Skype with Mr. Sword’s parents in Scotland whenever we want, and we both use Facebook to keep in touch with those close to our heart but who are far from our home.

We LOVE technology but technology is NOT welcome on our honeymoon to the Caribbean.  (Let’s assume for the sake of this post that WiFi is easily accessible wherever we are staying, which it usually is these days.)

While it would be fun to text “OMG this sunset!” to my friends or share photos on Facebook of our toes in the sand, the only person I want to be connected to on our trip is Mr. Sword.  That also means there will be NO browsing blog posts before dinner, playing games on our phones while waiting for transportation, or uploading pictures after a long day of sight-seeing.  We won’t be posting updates or tweeting about our latest excursions because no one needs to know what’s going on during our honeymoon. This trip will be about each other.

Side note: We will be keeping our phones with us in case of emergency but we won’t be using them for much else besides telling time (I don’t wear watches, ugly wrists).  And we’ll also be bringing our Kindles because there’s no better way to lug a large quantity of books with you and not take up a ton of space.

I know I’ve mentioned this before but our honeymoon will be our first vacation alone in over three years of being together which makes it extra special!  After our Big Day Mr. Sword and I went straight back into life and work.  We also had my wonderful in-laws in town visiting us in Chicago immediately following the wedding in Minnesota.  They were so sweet to be concerned about crashing with us newlyweds but we assured them our wedding was about family and we encouraged them to stay with us while they were still in America.  (We don’t get to see them often enough!)

The honeymoon on the other, we explained, is only about us.  The honeymoon is about relaxing after a stressful year of wedding planning, about spending quality time together that doesn’t include paying bills, driving in the car for 8 hours to MN, or buying groceries.  It’s about trying new and exciting things together, laughing our asses off, being romantic, and making memories to keep for a lifetime.  And that’s why it doesn’t feel right to bring technology with us.  Hello third wheel!

This also means I will be taking a break from blogging for a few weeks (can’t believe I’ve been a Sword since this past July!).  I’m going to take some time to be present with my new husband but I’ll soon be back with honeymoon posts and eventually wedding recaps (whoo-hoo)!

When we get home from the Caribbean we will be so excited to share our adventures with family, friends, Weddingbee, etc!  🙂  At that time we will choose which photos to post and which ones to keep to ourselves, we’ll choose which stories have to be told and which ones are better left unsaid, and we’ll update our status’ with life comparisons and complain about the lack of warm weather we had to come home to in the Midwest.  Life will go on and we will welcome technology back with open arms.  But on our honeymoon, it’s just me and him and it’s gonna be grand.

Would you consider an unplugged honeymoon or do you prefer to stay connected no matter where you are?  Did you go to the Caribbean, and if so where??  I’m going to miss all of you and your awesome comments and my fellow bloggers’ posts!  Sniffle sniffle.  See you all in a few weeks!  🙂

Love,

Mrs. Sword

Pre Wedding Depression, Didn’t See This One Coming

Disclaimer:  So yea, I’m going to talk about depression and I know that word can mean different things to different people and it can cause lots of very strong opinions, but I just want to recognize that everyone’s journey is unique to them and I only speak for myself.  Cool.

Scotland April 2012

Scotland April 2012

Throughout my year of wedding planning I was well aware of and well equipped to handle post wedding depression. I had read about it, heard first hand experiences about it, and had personally experienced the feeling of loss that can overtake one after something exciting ends (in my case, when I show I was performing in closed, it always left me a little sad). I was doing everything right to combat post wedding depression. I kept my friendships active, I planned for events post-wedding, and I reminded myself that there would be many exciting life events to look forward to with Mr. Sword.

Fortunately, I don’t feel any PWD (yay)! I loved my wedding day; I’m grateful it went so well and I’m happy to be married to the love of my life. But it turns out I was preparing for the wrong thing…

If you Google Pre Wedding Depression you can find articles that talk about it. They mostly go on about brides being so stressed out planning their wedding that they turn “blue.” This is not what I felt. I can handle stress. I can handle my anxiety (poorly but I can), and I can handle being “blue.” What I felt in the last few months of planning was painful.

It probably wasn’t evident from my blogging and it didn’t affect my job as a nanny but in my downtime I was apathetic, lonely, pessimistic, melancholy, and just plain sad. My Mom says when we have many changes in our lives our chemical balances can get off, and whether that’s true or not, that’s what I felt. Mr. Sword was traveling every week for work and I had way too much time to be alone, and to think. I was agonizing about all the upcoming changes in our careers, our location, and our relationship. I was feeling overwhelmed at the responsibilities of being someone’s wife, as I suddenly thought I wouldn’t be enough. And I was scared of failing, at well, everything.

So of course I picked fights with Mr. Sword. I had lots of emotional breakdowns on the phone to Mom, Sister, and Best Friends. I spent a few Saturdays in bed too depressed to move.

Sure, there were a few factors that helped contribute to my low mental state, the holidays were over, the winter dreariness was just beginning, and the thought of hosting the biggest event of our life seemed so overwhelming that everything else in life looked equally as daunting. Whatever the trigger, I knew I was not feeling like myself. I knew something was off.

At first it became apparent that I was a wreck every other weekend and so I began dreading every other weekend. I thought about seeing someone outside of my family to talk about things with but eventually we decided to go the holistic route and stocked up on herbal pills and extracts to help aid me in positive thinking and lower my anxiety. These things worked… slightly? Or perhaps they were a mental trick, either way I was working on feeling better and I was glad.

Soon enough both January and February past and by March I was starting to feel like myself again. I was still nervous for the big day (hello control freak) and I was still prone to emotional breakdowns (but what bride isn’t?), but I was happy and positive. It was a relief to be excited for the future again instead of dreaming up worst case scenarios.

Looking back from the other side I feel blessed to have had so many amazing people in my life that listened to me when I needed that, or made me laugh when I needed that, or acted excited about the wedding when I needed that. Mostly I’m grateful for having a partner who will discuss anything with me no matter how crazy I sound, who I can trust with my worst and most personal fears, and who loves me even when I’m not feeling 100% like myself.

love you baby!

Muah! love you baby!

(all photos personal)

Treading carefully here, does anyone else want to share their pre or post wedding depression experiences?  How did you get past the low moments?

I Couldn’t Tell You Before the Wedding

So before we leave on our unplugged honeymoon (more details on that to come next week), I have a few more posts to share about the Sword wedding planning process.

It’s time to divulge that there was one thing that could have been a HUGE problem but luckily turned out perfect in the end.

Truthbomb: We might have invited a few more people to our rehearsal dinner than we could actually fit in the reserved room.  How much more you ask?  Well since our rehearsal dinner goal was to feed anyone who came from out-of-state or out-of-country, we ended up inviting a total of 148 people.

The room on other hand?  It only fit 50-70 people max.  WHAT WERE WE THINKING!?!?!  🙂

We were thinking how much fun it would be see everyone twice, we were thinking feeding everyone twice was a way to thank them for making such a long trip, but in the end it was clear we were NOT thinking because it wasn’t until after the invitations had gone out that Mr. Sword turned to me and said, “How many people can we fit in that room at Cowboy Jack’s?”  My response, “Oh, a hundred or so.”  Wrong!

After checking our emails from the rehearsal dinner venue, it was clear we had over-invited.  Yet, for some odd reason, I wasn’t worried.  I knew it would all work out, and I had to focus on the real concerns of the wedding such as paper color and the weather.  (Really, Mrs. Sword?)

Of course we knew ahead of time that many of our Scottish guests wouldn’t be able to make the long flight, but that still only got us down to like 110, for the rest of the discrepancy we had to rely on US declines, and people who WERE coming to the wedding but who just couldn’t make the rehearsal dinner for whatever reason.  Scary.  Especially since I refused to tell any of our out-of-town guests.  So it remained a secret that we needed over half of those invited to the rehearsal dinner to RSVP a “no.”

I would normally have shouted my faux-pas on the blog in order to warn others against making the same mistake but I wanted to avoid making a guest feel like they weren’t welcome!  All of our amazing guests were so important to us and dammit we were gonna find seating for them all!

And then of course, it all worked out like I knew it would.  Our final number ended up being 66 people.  Four under our room’s max occupancy.  Swords for the win.  And no one had to know.

Did you or do you have something you over-invited for by accident?  Any secrets you care to share post-wedding that you knew would work out in the end?

A Bee’s Life: Sword Edition

Lest you think all I do is blog, know that this post was written weeks before my wedding in preparation for posting when I knew I would have zero free time.  I do love to keep a schedule, wedding or not! 🙂

This is by far my favorite series of all the bee ongoing series’ because I love to learn about what goes on behind the scenes of anything.  When I first found Weddingbee and before I applied to be a blogger I poured over as many of these entries as I could find.  I found them to be extremely helpful and insightful and inspiring, and I hope my post helps you in the same way.

1.  How I found Weddingbee:

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Well, this one’s easy.  I got engaged in February of 2012 and immediately started asking my friends for their favorite wedding blogs.  One of the of recommendations was Weddingbee.  The Fairy Tale/Magic generation icons were just beginning to appear and I proceeded to fall head over heels in love with this community.

This is going to come across slightly arrogant or conceited but there’s no other way to say it.  I kid you not, from the minute I laid eyes on this fantastic website I knew I was supposed to be a WB blogger.  I know it sounds dramatic and weird but I swear, I was drawn to it and I had this gut feeling I was going to be a blogger one day.  Mind you, I didn’t have a wedding blog going at the time and no idea where to even begin, but being that I was having a Fairy Tale wedding that coincided with the Fairy Tale/Magic generation, I felt it was all meant to bee!

2. My application story:

Before I talk about my application I want to share that my passion for writing started at an early age.  I used to write a ton in my angsty teenage years in the form of poetry and journal entries.  I’ve been obsessed with quotations (as I’ve mentioned before) for as long as I can remember, because I’m drawn to the way others communicate their thoughts.  I also used to write short plays for my home church’s drama team and I’m the person who gets asked to write little notes or change song lyrics for family celebrations and parties.  Despite all this, there was NO WAY I was gonna start a blog.

Even once blogging became popular, I still had no desire to start one.  This is the dialogue that went through my stupid little head: Me?  A blogger?  Puh-lease.  Blogging is weird and if everyone is doing it that means I’m not going to do it.  I’m too unique for blogging.  I need to begin working on my novel yo.

Obviously, I got slapped in the face (figuratively) by my stupidity and decided blogging was good, and especially helpful if I wanted to continue writing.  So I started a personal/relationship-focused blog back in October 2011.  Mr. Sword was known as “the Scottish” and I shared many embarrassing moments about my life with gripping topics such as, Why Do I Look So Fat in Pictures?, Are you in a Bi-Facial Relationship?, I’m a Church-Crier, and Here’s Hoping My Babies Come Out with Scottish Accents.  I also talked about my relationship with Mr. Sword as well as offbeat or unusual types of relationships (which I’ve talked about before).

When I started to blog about wedding related content I was shocked to find that most of my faithful readers did not give two craps about my wedding planning.  AS IF!  🙂

So I started a new blog and devoted it solely to talking about A Highland Fairy Tale.  For months I talked about Weddingbee and how I wanted to be a blogger for them.  I dragged my camera to every vendor meeting and wedding-related outing or event.  My family was like, “Yeaaa, OK, what are you even talking about?”  They didn’t get it.

Then I applied in mid June.  And I waited.  And I waited.  I waited over five weeks and still I had heard nothing.  A new bee hadn’t been introduced in forever and there was literally one fairy tale icon left (sword).  I finally mustered up the courage to email Pengy to nonchalantly ask if they’d received my blog submission.  I went to bed right away and braced myself to wake up to a rejection email.

I did wake up to email from Pengy, but it wasn’t a rejection, it was an acceptance.  I had been accepted!!!  NO FREAKIN WAY!  I know it sounds silly but I meant what I said in my first WB blog post, this really is a dream come true, and I was so excited to start sharing my wedding plans with this awesome community.  My gut instinct had been right and now I was going to be a Weddingbee blogger.  I will never forget that awesome feeling AND how I almost fell on my face when I ran into the bathroom to tell Mr. Sword that I had been accepted.

Naturally I told everyone.  And most people were like, I knew you’d get accepted!  (False. They had no idea.  Most of them were like, what is blogging again?)

3. What’s it like blogging for Weddingbee?

I’m gonna give it to you straight.  If you follow the suggested guidelines  and blog frequently and honestly about your wedding for all of the months leading up to your wedding, it is going to be a lot of work.  And when I say work, I mean, it’s like a part-time job.  All of a sudden not only are you planning the biggest event of your life but you’re also documenting it every step of the way.  I don’t mean to sound scary but blogging is a large time commitment.  However, if you LOVE weddings and writing, then it’s totally worth it!  🙂

But wait, there’s more! I wouldn’t leave this post hanging without a list of my unasked for tips!

Miss Swords Tips to Blogging Bliss

1. Do lots of blog prep.  By prep I mean writing posts in advance as ideas come to you.  My posts that have a few days or weeks to sit before being revised are so much better than the ones I hammer out the night before my self-imposed deadline.  My personal schedule (if you haven’t already noticed) is to blog three times a week, M, Tu, and W.  The secret to my consistency is that the bulk of my blogging is done on Thursday and Friday when I have more free time and don’t feel rushed.  Sure, I spend a lot of evenings revising and sometimes scrambling before a post goes live, but it saves me loads of time in the end.

2.  Keep a Google document with a list of topics and ideas for those days when your brain is totally fried.  My spreadsheet has a column for the blog post idea, the working title, the title that actually gets posted, and the date it was posted.  This helps me stay organized and it’s a good way to quickly browse all of your topics.

3. Find the things that make YOU interesting and extra special.  (Hint: there is no wrong answer here.)  We, as readers of WB, all connect with different people and different wedding themes, so don’t hide the parts of your wedding that make it unique.  Here’s what makes The Swords so interesting:

  • I’m marrying a dude from Scotland.  Like he’s here on a visa and needs a green card.  We fly to Glasgow every year.  We designed a family tartan because his last name was not associated with it’s own clan.
  • My little sister is getting married three months after me.  We are both brides and maid of honors at the same time!!  WHOA!  And she steals shares a lot of my vendors.  It’s a bit crazy.
  • I’m a weirdo.  I take way too many photos of myself, I’m wearing a tiara with my wedding gown, I can’t handle my liquor but there will be a lot of drinking at our wedding, and I’m obsessed with my boobs.
This was taken the Friday before our wedding!

This was taken the Friday before our wedding!

4. Do the thing that you’re the best at.  I am good at writing lots of content and advice.  I’m also good at pushing the envelope and bringing up controversial topics.  I’m not good at crafting, researching, making inspiration boards, posting photos from other weddings, and I especially suck at making color palettes.  Know yourself well enough to know what your strengths and weaknesses are in regards to blogging.  Do you do better at comparing and contrasting?  Do you thrive on scoping out other blogs?  Do you enjoy commenting on articles or links?  Are you funny?  Are you a bit offbeat?  Blog your strengths, I can’t stress that enough.

5. Grow some thick skin.  The thicker the better!  I can be a real Sensitive Sally sometimes, but I had to let that go when I became a bee blogger.  You know how you’re supposed to keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say?  Well, that doesn’t always happen on the interwebs.  And you might get some hurtful comments on some of your posts.

After one particularly mean comment I was talking to Mr. Sword in attempt to feel better and gain some perspective.  Luckily, my husband is one of the smartest men I know and he reminded me that for every person that doesn’t like something you write, there will be someone who does like it.  He said if you put yourself out there, you will get both good and bad feedback and that’s OK.  100% of people who read your stuff will not like it.  It’s impossible.  And then I felt 100% better.

I blog not only for Weddingbee and the community of readers but also for myself and for family and my future.  I am so excited to have this entire year of written memories recorded in one place.  How cool!

On that note, this post is complete.

Good luck to those bloggers who are itching to write for Weddingbee!  Thanks for reading my story.